I know many of my friends grew up under the same teachings and disciplinary actions. For most, in consisted of three steps.
Step 1 is the look, every black parent in the world has a look that they give you. Usually it is given in public places like church, restaurant, or a store. Step 2 of correction is a calm but stern mumble about how they gone beat our tails if we don’t get our life in order. This may come with a pinch or a twisting of an ear but consider it your final warning. The final step is Step 3, this could consist of many different creative techniques. You may get it with a shoe, a belt, a switch or the open hand…. Regardless, you were getting it!
Now, that we have all survived our childhood and are raising our own children. We have decided to take on “new” ways of raising them. We want to talk to them multiply times about the same things… We allow them to dictate when they are going to move and do something. And, we allow them to give us a budget on what we are spending on them. Most operate daily with a sense of entitlement!
Are we helping our children or hurting them?
Why are we giving our children things they don’t deserve? We rush to the store to buy them the latest pair of gym shoes and/or apparel every time they mention it or whine for it. Isn’t this behavior setting them up for failure?
How often are you talking to the same child about their grades? About their behavior at home, or in school? Parents, have you checked in with your child’s teachers this year? Are they just pushing your child through because they don’t know how to act and the teacher fears them? Are they really grasping the knowledge and retaining the education?
Are we substituting love with things!?
Do our children know the value of a dollar? That was the initial reasoning for allowances, but most of us blew that too. At the rate, some of these children are going… they are going to feel inadequate without the hottest items. Which will set them up for self-esteem issues, insecurities, and even worse jail; because when they become adults and they can’t afford these items, how do you think they are going to get them?
Don’t get me wrong, every child is different…. Some children only need a stern talking to. While others may need to be raised under an iron fist.
These are my thoughts surrounding a generation I feel is lost, most of them have no sense of loyalty, responsibility, or respect. So, my call to action for us parents are to correct it while you still have a chance! No one is saying you need to whoop your kids today (some may need to though) but reevaluate your role in their life. Are you preparing them for adulthood and setting them up for failure…
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