Raising a young black man in this world is the hardest thing I have ever had to do! Every day I am terrified if one of mine or his decisions, could cause our world to crumble.
Each day is a dance or even a chess match…
I ponder….do I let him go to the party? Do I let him hang with his friends? Can I safely let him walk home? Is it safe for him to get in that vehicle? We have multiple scenarios to consider and many things to fear.
Then there’s the local knuckleheads who want to be “hood legends”. They are willing to take another person’s life just for some social media fame. Will he fall victim to drugs and alcohol? Then there is the police force, will he encounter someone who is having a bad day? Or on a power trip? Or a rookie who is terrified and trigger happy?
I also have to wonder about his decisions… will he take the constant jewels(advice) his family gives him? Will he be wise and learn from other people’s mistakes or just be smart and learn from him making his own mistakes? Does he need to play with fire multiple times to understand that it burns or can he feel the heat and recognize the damage it can do from a distance? Will he listen to the demands for him to be responsible with his seed and the constant reminders to strap up! The talks about staying away from drugs, even though it is glorified in today’s music and television.
Plus, my own inner struggles… I have always wanted to give my children what I did not have (materialistically and emotionally) but what I ended up doing was creating a spoiled child whom I had to break.
I say break, because if I didn’t, this world would not only break him, but spit him out!
I refuse to raise a young man whom feels entitled and superior, in a world that will try to box him in daily through stereotypes, racism, politics and the color of his skin!
No! I must educate him about “white and economic privilege”, bigotry, ignorance, what it means to be selfless, how to be a good husband, how to respect women, how to respect adults, how to treat his siblings, understanding the value of a dollar, and how to survive in this cold-cold world…
Raising a young man has never been easy, but now, in this day and age… with all of the negative images that are being shown daily; it is the most daunting task ever!
While raising your young black men, (especially single mothers) be mindful of what you are instilling inside of them? Are you just raising a stylish “boy” who can say “I keep a horseshoe on my @$$ and J’s on my feet”; who will end of being a women’s pain in the butt?????
Or are you raising a young man, who will be a provider and protector of his family; whom will be feared by the knowledge and wisdom that he has obtained in his life!
Be conscious of your intuition when raising children, it’s always spot on!
~ Redefined Soul ~
My writing style is strong enough for a man but balanced for a woman!